Are you struggling to feel worthy and fulfilled?
It might not feel like it, but you're not alone. We live in a culture of "hustle and grind", one that tells us to keep pushing through, to "pull ourselves up by our bootstraps" and stop complaining. You might be looking around at your peers and colleagues and thinking that you’re the only one who's struggling to feel confident, to move forward towards your goals, and to feel worthy, whole, and happy in your life, relationships, and career.
Perhaps you’re also struggling to keep up with your day-to-day life. The laundry, the kids soccer games, the text messages that you’ve meant to respond to for the last seven days. Maybe your relationships are struggling because your intentions simply don’t line up with the way you’re showing up for your friends, family, partners, and even colleagues. Maybe your full of great ideas and struggle with the follow-through, and you feel like you’re spending all of your energy trying— trying to try— without any forward momentum or evidence to those around you.
Again, I see you, and you’re not alone.
I help you learn, lean into, and utilize your strengths to build the life and career you want and deserve. Yes, even with ADHD.
I love working with ambitious young professionals who struggle to recognize their worth. Especially those with ADHD.
I struggled with my confidence and self worth, too, and for a very long time. I was (and am) as ambitious and driven as they come, but for a long time I struggled to believe in myself and see the strengths that would later become my gifts. One day, I sought out therapy, and remember giving voice to my worst fear in that first session: "I know that it's confidence that holds me back, and I'm scared that if I don't do something to change this, this is all that I will ever be'.
What I was in that moment was someone who was perpetually anxious, scared, self-critical, self-doubting, and stuck in a perfectionistic loop that kept me from moving forward. Perhaps you feel this way, too. I didn't feel worthy at work, and therefore I ended up in the wrong jobs and hated everything about every day at work. My ambition was still there, and kept me wanting more but feeling completely lost. The worst part of all was that I was starting to hate myself- my self esteem was sinking lower and lower by the day.
Here's the thing: I was one of the lucky ones. I was encouraged to seek out support, and I found a great therapist who helped me lean into my strengths. She also encouraged me to get tested for ADHD, a diagnosis that would change my life by giving me a lens through which I could understand my struggles. This helped me figure out how to work with my brain, eventually leading me to pursue a Masters of Social work degree which eventually lead me to this very counselling practice. I believe that my experience makes me a better therapist: because I can relate to the struggles of my clients in a deep way, and I have not only studied the tools to move forward, but used them too. It's my turn to pay it forward.
Since completing my MSW and starting my work as a social worker and therapist, I've met countless people who struggle with the very same challenges. The more I speak about it, the more I am met with enthusiastic confessions of "me too" from others who have felt the same way as they build their careers and make critical life decisions. In addition to the deep impact of confidence and self-esteem challenges, I’ve also learned how ADHD can impact every facet of our lives in ways that can be detrimental— that is, without the right supports. With the right supports, systems, tools, and skills, the ADHD brain can actually be utilized to its full potential so that we can live successful, happy, and healthy lives— as long as we work with it.
And that’s where I come in. As I grow as a social worker and counsellor, my practice has become more “niched” towards folks with ADHD. I’ve continued to grow my skills and expertise when it comes to working with neurospicy brains, so that I can be that support for you too.
My counselling is for you if…
You are 18 or older and live in either British Columbia or Ontario, where I am registered to practice.
You live with (or suspect that you might have ) adult ADHD.
You’re a go getter, but the only place you’re “getting” to is one where you feel stuck, lost, and unfulfilled.
You’re always chasing perfection and struggle to feel worthy because of it.
You struggle with executive functioning (ex: planning & organizing, starting and finishing tasks, working memory, time management, regulating your emotions)
You feel stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, inadequate, unfulfilled, or any of the above.
You want to find a way forward that includes both emotional support and tangible tools/skills (ones that you can take action on)
But eek, counselling? Really? For me?
I’m not gonna beat around the bush here: starting therapy can be intimidating. You might be worried that you’ll feel or look awkward in therapy, that you won’t know where to start, or that you’re scared that you’ll open a “whole can of worms” that you won’t be able to control. Or, perhaps, you might be telling yourself that your problems aren’t ‘big enough’ for therapy.
Please rest assured that many people feel awkward when they start therapy, and that this discomfort is both normal and temporary. Please also know that there is no ‘right way’ to do therapy: you simply come as you are, and then it’s my job to create a sense of safety and comfort as we build up that trust.
No problem is too small for therapy: anything that causes distress, or anything you could use support with, is a good enough reason to seek counselling. It’s not your job to “do therapy right”- that’s why I’m here, to help guide the process in a way that is supportive to your personality, comfort, needs, and therapy goals.
I invite you to think about therapy as a way to a) understand yourself better, and b) find the tools, insight, and strength you need to move forward with intention. Think clarity and insight, paired with support in taking action, all the while with someone walking beside you to support you along the way.
My approach is conversational, collaborative, and integrative, and I'll let you be in the drivers seat and dictate the pace according to your comfort, needs, and goals. While I’m not a trauma focused therapist (i.e: I don’t “specialize” in trauma), I work from a trauma informed lens where your trauma is always held safely and honoured deeply in our work. Most of my work uses strength based modalities (ex: CBT, ACT, narrative therapy) and solution focused techniques, alongside some emotionally focused work, mindfulness, and nervous system support. If you’re here for ADHD support, you might be looking for a “coaching” type of focus to help you manage your life better. If so, I’m here for it— solution focused work can have deeply therapeutic effects, especially when the way we manage our live impacts our emotional wellbeing.. The most important point: I work with you and your goals, and I do my best to meet you where you are.
I like what I’m hearing… but now what?
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Decide if I’m a fit
First, it’s important to consider what you want from therapy. What do you not want to feel, and how might you feel if therapy were successful? If I were to wave a wand and get rid of the “problem” that brings you to therapy, what would your life look like?
Next, take another look at my website and ask yourself if I’m hitting any chords. Does it feel like I’m speaking to you directly? Do I talk about resolving challenges that you have, or building the life that you want? If so, we might be a fit.
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Book a free 15 minute consult
You’ve read and listened to all the things, but you still have more questions. No problem- I’ve got you! Just schedule a free consult call via my online booking platform using the button below. This is a quick 20 minute call to see if I’m the right fit for you. This is not a therapy session, but you’ll have a chance to ask any questions you need answers before you book your first session.
PSST: Make sure to book in your local time zone. Calendar times are in PST, so ON folks, please check World time buddy before you book.
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Book your first session!
You’ve read over my website and you’ve sussed out my vibe. Perhaps we’ve even had a wonderful 20 minute consult.
Now, there’s only one thing to do: book your first session using the button below. Make sure to book in your local time zone. Calendar times are in PST, so ON folks, please check World time buddy before you book.